why october and november are often harder than september
September gets all the attention. And then September ends, and a lot of families exhale, and then October arrives and something shifts and nobody warned me it was coming. I spent two Octobers confused about why things were getting harder before I understood what was actually happening.
things that can actually help school avoidance in the first week of school
September is the hardest week of the year for a lot of families navigating school avoidance, and the first few days have a way of setting the tone for everything that follows. This is the shorter, more immediate version, the things worth doing and asking for in the first week, before everything has a chance to go wrong.
the IEP and 504 accommodations worth asking for if your child has school avoidance
One of the things nobody tells you early enough is that you are allowed to ask for specific things. Not just "support" in the vague, reassuring way schools sometimes offer it, but actual, named, documented accommodations that the school is legally required to provide once they're written into a plan.
the post-covid rise in school avoidance: what the data actually shows
Before my daughter stopped going to school, I had a vague sense that this kind of thing happened to some kids, somewhere, occasionally. I did not have any sense that it was happening at a scale significant enough to have its own research literature, its own clinical terminology, or its own entry in a BMJ journal article with the phrase "perfect storm" in the title.
if you're in the middle of it — the slow mornings, the sunday evenings, the conversations with the school that don't go the way you needed them to —
this is for you.
get a note in your inbox each week. no advice you haven't already tried. just a parent who's in it too, and the occasional thing that's actually helped.